Yes, my oldest daughter texts, posts, and video chats. Yes, she is acutely concious of when it is “time” to freshen up the wardrobe with a handful of new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the very best of her sharing list these days.
Whereas we encouraged all of our children to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that decision to return is now entirely up to her. As that discussion ensued, I had become almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate her vantage point on the subject.
I was truly blown away by her expression in deep wisdom that has taken many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches throughout different veins of the outer world to figure out. What a dear girl was declaring through the example of summertime camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at tightly.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit odd to her now, showing that while appreciative of the sentiment, she hoped which usually her fellow campers felt free to be themselves over and above the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family dining. In short, everywhere.
This lady went on to give the model of seeing quite undoubtedly that she doesn’t need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything numerous (a camper) to look and feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she undoubtedly views camp as a true blessing, she knows that the lady with enough just as she is with or without camp to make sure you remind her of that inner knowing.
Indeed, a typical teen in so many ways, Aside from underneath the North Face coat and the Ugg boots, behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent video display, and even beyond our intimate family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies your self-awareness and interior growing that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
We do not need to go somewhere special or do something unusual to live our own truth. Basically, freedom to be comfortable in the own skin should not be saved for places that we take a look at three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all means, always.
She guaranteed me that she hasn’t been “knocking” camp in any way and probably do choose to return, but if she does go back designed for another year or three, it would not be for the reason that camp experience allows the girl’s to feel more authentic in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, singular (soul) choice to attend simply because she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” spot for a be herself fully in the world.
Certainly not what I experienced a long time back (alright twenty-six quite a few years back to be exact) for the tender age of 18. Recently my daughter and I were discussing no matter whether she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the 6th summer in a row.
Which has a palpable gratitude for all of the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to promote her deeper thoughts on this subject and beyond. This lady shared that while camp is touted as a method to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, increase a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the purpose of it all is to come to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, a great number importantly in the NOW.
While some parents interest status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for a children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those outside walls pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own personal be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Yes, my little girl has her challenges, the woman’s snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, the girl can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to the woman’s parents, generally ornery. And yet, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true concern for others that will serve but not just her, but the world most importantly, quite well.